Episode Summary

Who asks for directions? Who talks to strangers? Who apologizes first? And who is convinced they’re always right? Doc and Crystal switch things up with a playful round of “Who’s Who,” revealing the personality differences, habits, strengths, quirks, and everyday contrasts that make their marriage distinctly theirs.

In This Episode, We Discuss

• The personality differences that show up in everyday marriage

• Who is spontaneous, organized, social, and competitive

• Different approaches to routines and household life

• Who apologizes first after conflict

• Learning and laughing about your spouse’s quirks

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Transcript

So, we thought we’d switch it up a little bit today and play a little game of Who’s Who.

Yeah, y’all. ’80s babies will appreciate that reference. If you don’t get it, catch it on the back end.

But we’ve got our daughter here, who’s going to help us a little bit with these questions.

First one: Who is the first to ask for directions?

Definitely me.

Yes.

If Siri doesn’t get me there, I don’t know. It’s all broken.

Yeah, I’m not asking. I’m going to figure it out. I’ll get lost.

Well, I’m never lost. I just might not know where I’m at.

Okay.

Who turns a board game into a whole situation?

You.

Listen, I have very strong feelings about Spades. Our cousin Tiara said, “You get unc.”

I get stressed out with Spades and dominoes and stuff, so I don’t really be flipping tables.

Yeah, but you turn it into a situation. That was the question.

Okay.

Who is the first person ready to go?

That’d be me. I am always ready to go.

Yeah. On time.

Well, you’re ready to leave on time. I’m always ready to go early.

I’m ready to leave an event early.

Oh, no question. You are so ready to go.

No question.

Who reads the terms and conditions?

Not me.

I have been known to read the terms and conditions once or twice.

It saves us, though.

It does. It’s good to know the legalese. It’s balance.

Who remembers everyone’s name?

That’s me.

Oh my gosh. That’s a superpower.

Yeah. Remembering names, that’s me.

I put that on my vision board, y’all, to get better about remembering people’s names. I’m still working on it. It’s a work in progress.

Who’s the DIYer?

That’s not me.

I am. I like to do stuff. Put me in the yard. Let me decorate stuff.

Crafts and stuff.

I’ll cut the grass. That’s about it.

Okay.

Who talks to strangers?

This one. I definitely talk to strangers.

Yeah. You’ve never met a stranger.

That’s how you say it. I’ve never met a stranger.

Who said “I love you” first?

I think you did.

No.

Yeah, you did.

I did not!

Yeah.

No. What I said was, “I can’t do this for the rest of my life.”

Which is basically “I love you.”

That is absolutely not the same thing.

That’s basically...

You said “I love you” first.

No, you said it first.

Don’t make me go get my diary.

Hey, pull it out.

Okay, next time. Carry on.

When you’re both in a bad mood, who lightens the mood?

That’s me.

First of all, I’m rarely in a bad mood.

This is true.

So I’ll be the one to lighten, or at least make an attempt to lighten, the mood.

Right.

Who is the morning person?

That’s me!

Oh my gosh.

That’s me. I’m a morning person.

You wake up the birds. You wake up the roosters.

Listen, I’m a morning person.

Then you shut me down because when I try to talk to you in the morning, you tell me to be quiet.

Because you be all loud and stuff.

But the sun is up. It’s time.

It’s time for the day to start.

No. No.

Who is the most spontaneous?

That’s you.

I’m not spontaneous. I just like to do stuff.

Yeah. You want to be random. “Let’s go jump off the boat and splash into the water.”

But you’re also a planner. You’re a planner and spontaneous.

I’m a recovering planner. I used to be a planner before we had kids, and then I don’t know what happened to that part of me.

Kids.

It went to the same place as the forks, the socks, and the twisty tie to the bread.

And the twisty tie to the bread.

We don’t know.

Who has the sweet tooth?

Oh, that’s your boy. I’ve got the sweet tooth all day, every day.

Little Debbie is his side chick.

That’s my mistress right there.

Well, I know about her, so she’s not your mistress.

If it’s got sugar in it, it’s me. Sign me up.

Yeah, that’s true.

If it’s butter, bread, rice, noodles...

That wasn’t a question.

That’s me.

Who keeps the pantry organized?

This one.

I do. I love an organized pantry. My best friend helped me organize our pantry the first time, and in honor of her, I maintain the organization.

I’m grateful, but I could care less.

I really want you to care more.

I know, because we’ve got bins for things, hence the organization.

Yeah. It’s maintenance.

It’s helpful, right?

Who is the crankiest when hungry?

Okay. You get a headache. I get irritated.

Yeah. You get irritated.

I get hangry. I get really hungry.

Yes, you do.

I do. Guilty.

Who makes the bed?

I think we both make the bed. I’d call that a draw. That’s 50/50.

You might over-index on the bed-making more than me.

Yeah, but I love the bed, y’all. I’m going to be in the bed.

Now, making it perfect? That’s her.

Yes.

It’s going to look right, with the chop in the middle of the pillows.

You’ve got to chop it.

Who apologizes first?

Me. I apologize first.

It’s because I’m never wrong.

That is like the third, fourth, or fifth time you have said this.

It’s all a lie. It’s a lie on this platform. You have said this on this platform many a time.

It is the third time I’ve said it, and you know, it’s fine.

It’s fine.

Who will eat food they don’t like and not say anything?

Me.

I’ll eat it and not say anything. I’ll just be like, It is what it is.

I just won’t get it again.

I need to enjoy my food.

She’s speaking up for sure.

Who has an opinion about everything?

This one.

Give me a couple minutes.

I can formulate an opinion based on available information.

That’s not hard.

Not for you.

No.

Who is always right?

We already covered this one.

It’s not me.

I’m the right one. Get it? I’m the right one.

You are the right one.

You’re a goober.

Anyway, y’all, let us know. We want to know who’s who in your relationship.

Yeah. Y’all do your own little game.

We’ll talk to y’all later.