Episode Description

Marriage rarely keeps both spouses in identical seasons of momentum. Crystal and Doc discuss supporting ambitious goals, listening without fixing, stepping forward or falling back when needed, and honoring the role each spouse plays in the other’s growth.

What We Get Into in This Episode

• Supporting a spouse’s goals

• Why couples may grow at different speeds

• Listening without immediately fixing

• Taking turns carrying more of the load

• Honoring the season each spouse is in

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Frequently Asked Questions

How can I support my spouse’s goals?

Listen, encourage, remain present through setbacks, and ask what kind of support would actually be useful in that season.

What if one spouse is growing faster than the other?

Different speeds are normal. One spouse may be pursuing a major goal while the other provides stability, and those roles can change over time.

Do I always need to solve my spouse’s problems?

No. Sometimes support means listening without immediately offering a plan.

Transcript

Things can change during a marriage. Um, you're never always on the same page or always moving at the same speed. One person is usually like crushing it while the other person is just playing like you know what is it? What's the person that in football they're six? Watch your six with the quarterback. That's not football. But that is not football. You watch your six in football. Just watch your back. Let's just say Okay.

Well, whatever. I'm not the athlete. But anyway, you watching the other person's back. You just making sure that everything is okay and everything is good. And um I would like to publicly thank my boo that's me for for being my Yes, you are. for for holding me up and pulling me through um this season where I decided that I was going to write a book. And so um oh you know the difficulties of just the frustration like running into brick walls and not knowing how to do code and it's a lot. How many times did I say I quit? Yes. That you wanted to stop.

You wanted to quit. I did. Like you didn't want to go through with it. Yes. Yeah. But a lot. I remember I remember now when you were competing and you were going through all of the things that you were going through with people talking crazy about you and when you were working your way back Uh-huh. it's no different. To the Olympic stage. Yeah.

I guess at the end of the day, it's one of those where the support sometime it's just being an ear. Yeah. just just listening like no feedback because there's been times I know I came I was practicing you know dealing with being called a black cat and whatever when I was competing sometime I was just venting and I just need you to listen and hey ladies that's real sometimes you don't need to fix it as a perpetual and always fixer I'm like yo this is the game plan and Doc is like just but I just I shut up just I just need you to listen need you to listen So, you know, sometimes you got to just be there. Yeah. And your presence means everything. Um, so, you know, that's it. Yeah. No, that's all we got tonight, man. Like, just just know that y'all not going to grow at the same speeds and at the same time and somebody going to have to fall back. Somebody going to step up and that's by design.

Yeah. That's the way that it's supposed to be. And honor it. Honor it. you know, own your spot, be who you're supposed to be, and like look, I mean, tell us what y'all have done um to support your spouse or your significant other. um cuz it's been some crazy times. Ah, I have wanted to quit. Yeah. Look, I want to listen listen my my crew was 13 years, so I know I got plenty of stories we probably save for later that you had to listen to a lot of track drama. And there are stories let me tell you only only you know and so but just just being that ear being that support for your spouse is very important and that's my proof version but it's real.

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So anyway, we love you guys. See you next week. We out.